So, you may be wondering, "Am I having a quarter life crisis?" To help you answer that question, take this diagnosis quiz which consists of 25 questions. Read each question carefully and answer quickly with a simple yes or no:
1. Are you in a "funk" where you feel like nothing is terribly wrong, but nothing seems right either?
2. Do you feel older for the first time in your life?
3. Are you unmotivated, directionless, passionless?
4. Are you concerned that you don't know what you want to do with your life?
5. Do you feel pressure to grow up and get your adult life in order?
6. Do you feel entitled to a life much grander than the one you are living?
7. Do you often depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, lost, and maybe even a little hopeless?
8. Do you feel a lot of pressure and expectations to do, have or be something?
9. Do you ever feel that time is running out in regards to figuring out your career and deciding whether you want to get marred and/or have children?
10. Are you stressed out by choices that seemingly will affect the rest of your life?
11. Are you experiencing confusion or disappointment in your career?
12. Do you feel that you have failed because you don't know what you want to do with your life?
13. Do you know what you want to do, but can't seem to make it work?
14. Is it difficult for you to make decisions and when you do, you question them?
15. Do you over analyze yourself?
16. Do you even feel guilty for complaining about your life or feel like you are disappointing people (especially your parents)?
17. Are you embarrassed that you have not figured out more?
18. Is a breakup, romantic relationship, or lack or one causing you stress and/or sadness?
19. Are you still living at home with mom and dad?
20. Do you frequently compare yourself to other people your age and feel like you don't measure up?
21. Do you feel financially unstable?
22. Could your self-esteems use an upgrade?
23. Are you thinking about going back to grad school because you don't know what else to do with your life?
24. Are you constantly thinking about the future resulting in anxiety and possibly panic?
25. Is your life just not at all turning our like you planned?
If you answered "yes" to 12 or more of the 25 questions above, you are likely to be experiencing a quarter life crisis. But don't worry, this is not bad news! The purpose of the quiz is to show you that you are actually going through a very normal and natural rite of passage that no one may have warned you about. You are not alone.
For more information, visit http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-hassler/are-you-having-a-quarterl_b_326612.html
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
CHOPPING MY HAIR OFF - Update
So, last Friday I went ahead and got a full head weave. I was excited and nervous at the same time. I was excited because it was something that I had never done before but I was also nervous because I wanted it to look nice.
It's been a week and I LOVE IT! I am able to straighten it in order to get ready in about 10 minutes, whereas it takes me about 20-30min to straighten my real hair. When I wear it curly, it looks like my real hair (only a lot longer). It takes a long time to curl, but I am just getting the hang of it. So I am sure I will be able to cut some of that time down. Overall, I like it because I don't have to put heat on my real hair every day.
Most of my female friends love it! (or so they tell me) But my male friends are split. Some of them say it looks really nice while others think that my real hair is better. At the end of the day, I like it and its something different without me changing my real hair. So, I am definitely going to keep it for another week and probably get another weave! I might be addicted!
It's been a week and I LOVE IT! I am able to straighten it in order to get ready in about 10 minutes, whereas it takes me about 20-30min to straighten my real hair. When I wear it curly, it looks like my real hair (only a lot longer). It takes a long time to curl, but I am just getting the hang of it. So I am sure I will be able to cut some of that time down. Overall, I like it because I don't have to put heat on my real hair every day.
Most of my female friends love it! (or so they tell me) But my male friends are split. Some of them say it looks really nice while others think that my real hair is better. At the end of the day, I like it and its something different without me changing my real hair. So, I am definitely going to keep it for another week and probably get another weave! I might be addicted!
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
And a quarter life crisis is what again?
I spent hours upon hours yesterday trying to define what a quarter-life crisis is. And you know what? I really couldn't define it. It's a state of confusion about so many things in life - career, family, relationships, etc. After my frustration subsided, I decided to further research the phrase "quarter-life crisis" which I thought I made up. Boy, was I wrong. There have been many articles and even websites dedicated to explaining the period post undergrad that many 20-30 year olders experience. In my quest for research I found an article that pretty much summed up all of my thoughts. So, I wanted to share that article.
The Quarter-Life Crisis
by unknown
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year of two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out what you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
www.cds.caltech.edu/~shane/text/quarterlifecrisis.html
The Quarter-Life Crisis
by unknown
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year of two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out what you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
www.cds.caltech.edu/~shane/text/quarterlifecrisis.html
Monday, October 19, 2009
IM CHOPPING MY HAIR OFF!
I am so sick of the stereotypes of beauty! It makes me want to go find scissors right now and chop my hair off completely. Or even better yet, wear chocolate brown foundation to make my skin appear 5 shades darker. Now realistically, I like my long natural hair and I don't plan on cutting it anytime soon; I also enjoy my skin color and would look like a fool with dark makeup on. I just hate the stereotypes.
What I hate even more than the stereotypes of beauty, are when people say "I don't have a 'type'". Igga Please! Yes you DO have a type! Every female you have ever talked to is a "long-haired thick red bone." Please do not feed me or anyone else that garbage.
Everyone has preferences and I understand that. I prefer oranges over apples. I prefer meat lovers pizza while you prefer veggie pizza. My preferences are my preferences and they probably wont change any time soon. I just hate the history associated with the stereotypes of beauty and the lengths that people will go to in order to attain that beauty.
Ever since WE (yes, i said we) were no longer in slavery, we attempted to assimilate with white society. Light skin was IN! Straight hair was IN! Those things were more white and our ancestors believed that would help them fit in. Our grandparents or great-grandparents may be familiar with the brown paper bag test (for skin color) or the pencil test (for straight hair). Often times, those that did pass these tests were mulattos. It's just sad to me that the standards of beauty have not changed that much over time. Sure there might be a season where "dark skin is in" but at the end of the day the historical stereotype prevails. Geez, Chris Rock even made the documentary "Good Hair, Bad Hair" to show the lengths women go to for "good hair." But who really defines what good hair is? who really defines what beauty is? At the end of the day, everything is relative.
I will admit that I am a victim of succumbing to the societal pressures of beauty. Even though I have never gotten a perm (also known as relaxer) in my life, I am constantly straightening my hair. Granted, putting that much heat on my hair regularly it is not healthy. I don't care. I like my hair straight. Other people like my hair straight. And straight hair is considered "professional." I get the most compliments when my hair is straight and/or curly. Maybe if I received just as many compliments (or more) of my natural hair, I would wear my natural hair more often. Or maybe I just like my hair being straight. Is it wrong of me to like my hair being straight - which is stereotypical.
Quarter Life Crisis: This Friday I am getting a weave for the first time in my life. I used to joke with my friends about getting one but I was never serious. I mean, c'mon now, my hair is relatively long. However, I have always wanted long(er) curly hair. So I am doing it! If I don't like it, I can always take it out. As opposed to doing something much more dramatic like cutting my hair, which I can't easily get back. Anyway, I'll def post an update and pics with my "new" hair.
What I hate even more than the stereotypes of beauty, are when people say "I don't have a 'type'". Igga Please! Yes you DO have a type! Every female you have ever talked to is a "long-haired thick red bone." Please do not feed me or anyone else that garbage.
Everyone has preferences and I understand that. I prefer oranges over apples. I prefer meat lovers pizza while you prefer veggie pizza. My preferences are my preferences and they probably wont change any time soon. I just hate the history associated with the stereotypes of beauty and the lengths that people will go to in order to attain that beauty.
Ever since WE (yes, i said we) were no longer in slavery, we attempted to assimilate with white society. Light skin was IN! Straight hair was IN! Those things were more white and our ancestors believed that would help them fit in. Our grandparents or great-grandparents may be familiar with the brown paper bag test (for skin color) or the pencil test (for straight hair). Often times, those that did pass these tests were mulattos. It's just sad to me that the standards of beauty have not changed that much over time. Sure there might be a season where "dark skin is in" but at the end of the day the historical stereotype prevails. Geez, Chris Rock even made the documentary "Good Hair, Bad Hair" to show the lengths women go to for "good hair." But who really defines what good hair is? who really defines what beauty is? At the end of the day, everything is relative.
I will admit that I am a victim of succumbing to the societal pressures of beauty. Even though I have never gotten a perm (also known as relaxer) in my life, I am constantly straightening my hair. Granted, putting that much heat on my hair regularly it is not healthy. I don't care. I like my hair straight. Other people like my hair straight. And straight hair is considered "professional." I get the most compliments when my hair is straight and/or curly. Maybe if I received just as many compliments (or more) of my natural hair, I would wear my natural hair more often. Or maybe I just like my hair being straight. Is it wrong of me to like my hair being straight - which is stereotypical.
Quarter Life Crisis: This Friday I am getting a weave for the first time in my life. I used to joke with my friends about getting one but I was never serious. I mean, c'mon now, my hair is relatively long. However, I have always wanted long(er) curly hair. So I am doing it! If I don't like it, I can always take it out. As opposed to doing something much more dramatic like cutting my hair, which I can't easily get back. Anyway, I'll def post an update and pics with my "new" hair.
Im blogging because...
Some blog to inform others about a certain topic, but that's not me. Others blog to receive attention, but that's not me either. Some even blog to tell stories (and even though I have some great stories), unfortunately that's not me. I blog because I have alot on my mind. I'm not really looking for answers or opinions (even though opinions are greatly appreciated). I just have a lot of things on my mind, and I want to be able to look back and see how much I have grown/my attitude towards things changes (if it changes).
Side note: I used to blog my freshmen and sophomore years at Butler. It's pretty interesting to see the things I was once stressed about (and how they really are irrelvant in the grand scheme of things). You can check it out at www.sleepyt04.xanga.com
Side note: I used to blog my freshmen and sophomore years at Butler. It's pretty interesting to see the things I was once stressed about (and how they really are irrelvant in the grand scheme of things). You can check it out at www.sleepyt04.xanga.com
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